I’ve heard that the world of online dating can be good for some people, but unfortunately, I haven’t had the same luck as others have.

You can ask my friends, I’m generally perceived as a nice guy (which you don’t know from reading about me on a dating site). I’m average looking, and in good enough shape, so I don’t think any women cringe when I email them. But still, I’m not sure exactly why I am having such a difficult time even getting the women I’m interested in respond to me.

Let me ask a few of questions to any ladies who may come across this piece, and has ventured into the world of online dating: what exactly are you looking for? Did you sign up and not use your particular site? Do you not like it that I actually read your profile? Or did I happen to be the 63^rd guy to email you that day?

The last question is actually a true story. I was at dinner recently with some friends who met online and now live together. I brought up my recent break-up and how I was looking to meet someone new I could connect with. An excerpt from the conversation went pretty close to this:

Girl: “I was so inundated with requests from guys that it got to be overwhelming.”
Guy: “She was the only one who responded to me.”

While listening to them my frustration was mounting, because it seems like I have a one in a million shot to actually make a connection online. The whole point of going online in the first place was to meet new people who are outside of my pool of friends. Unfortunately, I am about zero for ten in getting a response since I reenlisted into the online dating army. But, I guess if my friend and his girlfriend met, and they are happy together then there is still that one person out there out that million.

I just don’t know what to make of online dating. I feel like it is a lost cause as I begin my second tour of duty (it feels like a battle or a conflict and I don’t necessarily see a “resolution” in sight) I’d like to meet someone but the glass that was half-full is starting to seem half-empty. I may just have to go back into the real world and meet someone face to face. That’s being said with a certain of level sarcasm, but I think it may be the only solution to my online dating woes.